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How Am I Making My Life Difficult?
By redw | March 3, 2010
Sometimes we can get stuck in an attitude that things have to be hard. Not sure how it happens, it just does. Maybe we grew up with the assumption that things always have to be difficult in order to work.
The next thing you know you are embarking on something new. It could be a career change for the umpteenth time in your life. Maybe you are having a child that was not expected. Maybe you are considering divorce or are divorced. You may be thinking you will never find someone to love.
Am I saying that divorce does not have to be hard? You make the choice. In fact, you do make the choice. No one ever expects you to take on more than you can handle, but having it be difficult is a choice.
What if you tried on the perspective that it does not have to be hard. Wow! Is that allowed? Can I really think that something does not have to be hard just for once? What a wonderful life it is when we can embrace new perspectives and thoughts that are outside the norm and just try them on for a while.
When Staples came out with the “Easy” button commercials, it appeared to be funny and downright unrealistic. However, the concept is enlightening when we can accept that it does not have to be this hard.
What usually happens is we focus on that one big thing that is making everything hard to deal with and suddenly even the little daily routine things are difficult. Now getting dressed and getting to work is more difficult than ever. Now we are complaining that nothing goes right. We cannot catch a break anywhere.
So say for now that you can break it down into little pieces. Maybe this one task or project does not have to be hard. Then expand that thought into this day does not have to be hard. You cannot expect to flip your whole life over like a coin and go from hard to easy just like that, right? Can you envision that easy button working for you all day long? It is possible to focus on what we want so much that we centrally create it in our lives. If we want things to be easy we can focus on easy and it will get better.
I love to quote Wayne Dyer, so I have to once again. He says you cannot fix a problem from the same mind that created it. To me that means you have to think differently in order for things to be different than they are right now. What does it mean to you?
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