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Releasing Emotions Effectively
By redw | February 22, 2010
So many times we are faced with hurt that someone inflicts upon us. Having the ability to first see the pain or emotion we are feeling and then accept it for what it is is often the most difficult for us. A few years ago I learned a technique that I will share with you here in order to release resentment, anger, or any other emotion that we are dealing with as a result of our relationships with others.
After noticing and accepting the emotion you are now feeling, you can now write a letter to the person who has caused you to feel pain. This does not involve writing a letter to them with a laundry list of how they have hurt you. It is a letter of apology to them for the hurt you caused them at some time in the relationship. Ouch! You may be backing away from your computer about now. Just accept the resistance if it comes up. Actually, it is very helpful to sincerely think about the time or times in which you have inflicted hurt or pain to this person and write your letter of apology describing how you were insensitive or hurtful to them in any way. Make sure to include in this letter how you can make amends or that you are willing to make amends.
Next, add to the letter an appreciation to this person for specific gifts they have given to you. Write about how receiving from them made you feel and the gratitude you hold for them. They may have shown kindness to you at some time or given you advice. Whatever it is that you appreciated, express your gratefulness sincerely from your heart.
This letter does not need to be mailed to be effective for you. You can keep it or let it go. You can even make a ritual of releasing the letter symbolizing letting go of the negative emotion. Remember that we cannot control the actions of others. The only business we can mind is our own.
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