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The Relationship Story You Just Have To Tell
By redw | January 21, 2010
Every couple has a story and you are no exception. What is your story? I am sure that you know it very well and could recite it to someone who truly wanted to know what was going on with you and your partner.
Actually, you tell that story to yourself every day don’t you? It could sound like “my spouse is a &@#$ and always does *&^% when I do not want him to” or “we never get along and I just hate all the fighting” or some other similar type of story that defines your relationship. Believe it or not, but the story you tell is the relationship you create.
For sure by now you have heard of the Law of Attraction and know that theory behind this law is that what you think about, speak about and act upon is what you bring about. So if your story is not the story you want for your relationship, then first you have to stop telling it like it is or how you see it. Claiming how it is is only reassuring more of the same.
Begin telling a different story. There is another story you can tell. Catch your spouse doing something great and begin telling that to everyone. It could sound like “you know my husband picked up his dirty clothes today,” or “he fed the kids breakfast,” and remark on those good things that you see them doing. You can actually journal the good things you see them do each day and remind yourself by writing it down. Notice the times and write down when you are in sync and your enthusiasm is real and passionate for your partner. Read it back everyday or when the moments arise that you do not remember anything good about your relationship.
There are two very real distinct instances where this has worked for me. Often when I have been angry with my husband and took the time to sit down and write all of his good qualities, and when I read them back to myself I found I was no longer angry with him. I know this works for I was telling a complete different story about one of my family members in my inner talk. Then I began changing my story about them and now our communication and relationship has grown to be the actual story I am telling about them in my mind and out loud.
You can change your relationship story. If last year’s story does not serve you for this year, then be the creator that you are and revamp your story. Begin living and breathing that new story and you will see changes in your relationships everywhere.
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