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What Is Love Without Respect?
By redw | January 29, 2010
It’s so easy these days to say I love you. We can use anything from telegrams to flowers and candy to texts to tell someone special in our lives that we love them. The traditional way to let someone know you love and care about them is by giving them a card that says so. Even phone conversations often end with “I love you” as we run to our next action.
But how many times can we say I love and yet refuse to listen? How many times can we say ‘I love you’ and criticize our partner’s their thoughts or actions if they are not like ours.
Showing true love in our lives to our partners and family begins and sustains the respect for that person and their uniqueness. Respect is defined as “having regard for” or “appreciation of” and my favorite is “avoiding violation of.” How do we not violate our partner or loved one?
A violation within a relationship can happen in many ways, but it always involves breaking the will of someone else. When we break the will of our partner, they will struggle with trusting us. And breaking the will usually leads to breaking their spirit.
If you find your partner doesn’t have the “spirit” or energy to keep trying then do a check on the respect areas of your relationship.
1. When they speak do you listen or ignore them?
2. When they have an idea do you praise or belittle that idea?
3. When they accomplish something or perform a difficult task do you offer praise and acknowledgment of a job well done?
4. Do you talk down to your partner?
Your answers here will help you to realize if you are respecting and honoring your partner within your relationship or taking them for granted.
We will continue next time with what is love with respect…
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