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Will Your Relationship Make It?
By redw | January 5, 2010
You may be finding yourself asking whether Tiger Woods and his wife Elin will make it after all the attention that is now focused on their marriage difficulties. Maybe you are one who reads the tabloids at the supermarket and wonders about Brad and Angelina and their latest marriage saga or other star romances you may be following.
If you and your spouse or partner were on the tabloid shelf what would be your headline? Would it sound like this “Magic couple surmounts all odds to keep marriage afloat.” “Despite their differences they still hold on for a better outcome” might be your headline. Hopefully it is not the dreaded “Will They Make It?”
No doubt you are taking inventory of everything in your life with fresh eyes now that a new year has begun. With that, it is important to look at your relationships with your partner, your children, friends and coworkers. What goals do you want to set for these relationships for this year? Are they healthy relationships? Could you be more giving more or are you receiving those things that you need from your relationships?
First, it is paramount that you know your own needs. No one can determine or should determine your needs for you. By not stating your needs you make it virtually impossible for anyone to live up to your expectations.
Secondly, determine whether you are approachable and open for conversation. Can others talk to you sensibly and with reason about difficult and sensitive matters that affect your relationships? If honesty is a value for you as an individual make sure that you are allowing others to be honest with you without judgment. Being closed minded is not an attribute of relationship building.
Lastly, if your relationship needs improvement or even overhauling, make sure to ask for help. Support is your greatest tool to survival when facing relationship problems. You do not have to face these tough choices ahead alone. Get the support you need from family, friends, and a relationship building coach.
Remember that you did not wake up today with a relationship problem. If it is in need of repair then it will take time to build that relationship to the level that is desired. The good news is that you can have the relationship you desire when you are ready to move toward that choice.
Topics: Blog, Relationship | 1 Comment »
November 17th, 2010 at 1:13 am
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